It's almost my soon-to-be 2 year olds birthday who she shares with her dad, my boyfriend. My brothers sister texted the group chat (my boyfriend, his brother, his sister, his mother who lives out of states and myself) asking what we were doing for their birthday, and i texted back saying that it was going to be something small. That we were just going to have them open their presents, blow their cake, have pizza and that my family would most likely be over as well if we do plan on doing that. My boyfriend then went on to text back and said everything should be virtual, christmas included because of covid and personally, i dont mind doing that either. His sister replied and said "Matt and I can just come when they're gone or before they come to give her her presents and say hi. We don't need to be there with everyone." That kind of pissed my boyfriend and I off and he said they don't get to just ignore your part of the family. My boyfriends siblings and my mom, stepdad, brothers and nephew were the two groups of people we have been around during covid and they have never met my family. What pissed us off was the fact that they voluntarily get to show up at our door whenever they want without most of the time putting into consideration their wherabouts at all. Their mother was able to travel to us from outside the state and his siblings and mom went all over the place acting as if covid wasnt a thing when they should have just been home and my boyfriend and i had no say on whether we even wanted his mother to risk being over at our place since we had not been around her since the beginning of covid. So all of a sudden, now that i want to invite my family who have been following the guidelines of preventing or lowering risk of covid, they want to back out and just not be around? I had my brothers siblings over for thanksgiving (i didnt have my family over), and his siblings are planning to be over for christmas as well, but what if i was going to have my family over for christmas too.. does that mean theyd also say the same thing about waiting until my family leaves to come over as if it would be any different then when their mom got to come over and be with us. Idk if anyone is understanding our point of view, but at this point my boyfriend and i just want to cut everything to be a virtual event, christmas included. His siblings dont get to decide when they are allowed to come and go into our house but the minute i say i might have my family over they all of a sudden want to act some type of way. I completely respect peoples view on covid and gathering, but ty thing is his siblings never took covid serious in the first place, so why all of a sudden make ot seen like they do.