Husband came home at midnight and told me I have to go do his laundry

I’m a SAHM and my husband and I have four kids. Our washer recently broke so we’ve been using the local laundromat until it’s fixed. I don’t like to take my kids there with me because with COVID cases being so so high in our area and them not liking to wear masks and my youngest is immunodeficient and if she caught covid it could be really bad. So I’ve been doing laundry when my husband is home, and can stay with the kids, which is almost NEVER. He works 5 days a week and ha to work this Saturday until early afternoon. He usually does other stuff on weekends and rarely ever spends time with or the kids when he has free time.

When he came home from work yesterday he told me he wasn’t staying home because he was going back out to his friends. I wanted to get all the laundry done yesterday so I was hoping he would stay home but he came late last night so I figured I’d get laundry done today.

He got up this morning at 8am and showered and left by 9am. He said he had to go work on his truck and was making a trip two hours away to see his best friend about a “project” they’re working on. I told him I needed to do laundry today if he wanted clean work stuff for work tomorrow, he said he would be back late afternoon and I could go do it then. He texted me about 5 hours later and told me he wouldn’t be back until late. I was so mad because I knew he would still want the laundry done. We have no family who live close by either so I couldn’t call them to come watch our kids.

I called his best friends gf to see what he was actually doing because we’re friends too. She said they’re just hanging out, chilling watching movies and not at all talking about whatever “project” he mentioned to me. Well it’s almost midnight and he just got home. The first thing he said to me when he walked through the door was “you better grab all my work laundry and go do it now so I have some clean stuff for tomorrow”. Mind you the laundromat is 8 miles away. I refused because I’ve been up since 5am and I’m exhausted and he got so pissed that he stormed to bed and said how it is ridiculous that as a SAHM I can’t take care of his laundry for work since he’s the one bringing in the money and if he goes to work in dirty clothes it just reflects poorly on me. He also told me I should have taken all four kids to the laundromat with me today (they’re all under 6) and it was ridiculous I have to have him around to get things done. I shouldn’t be worried about how late it is because I’m home all day every day so why do I need to worry about energy. Just for clarification I have two kids in virtual learning and two toddlers and the youngest gets up everyday at 5am. My house is immaculate and my kids are very well taken care of. He gets every meal made for him, his clothes laid out in the morning and his work lunch made fresh every morning. He hasn’t changed a diaper I think ever and he has never watched the kids alone a full day in their lives.

I’m so annoyed that he always puts me in these situations but part of me feels like I should just go do his laundry so I don’t have to deal with the drama tomorrow. What would you do?