I’m sorry, this is going to be me venting. I’m so overwhelmed. I’m 19 and live with my fiancé. We recently found out I’m pregnant. This has happened in the past, but neither baby made it. I have a good feeling that this baby will be the one who makes it. My family doesn’t know yet, and I don’t know how to tell them. It feels like the worst timing ever.

My fiancé and I were planning to get married in September and get a nice quiet get away. I’ve wanted to have a fall wedding ever since I was a little girl. But now, with this baby due in August, I’m faced with a decision: do I get married this year with my 1 month old? Do I wait another year to have to perfect ceremony even though I want to have our wedding in 2021 so badly? Or do I give up on my fall wedding dream? I never wanted my wedding pictures to also be my maternity pictures. I feel like every woman wants her perfect wedding with the perfect pictures and such. I know it sounds petty, but I’m just really sad that I have to change my plans.

Even if we keep our wedding date, I’m afraid that we won’t be able to really celebrate and go on our honeymoon. It’s not like we can take the baby with us... I mean maybe we can, but I always hoped it would be just the two of us.

My other option, other than just waiting another year, is getting married before the baby is born. Either in winter of spring. This, I feel, is not ideal and may be kind of rushing things.

I don’t know what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated🖤