Toxic HELP
Hi guys. If you look back at my other posts, I’ve had a lot going on with my boyfriend. We broke up and he moved out two months ago but we have been chatting. We have been trying to figure out what the main cause of our relationship and why it went south. I try to talk to him about it. At first it was ok. But every time I bring up how I feel or what I was feeling about something in the past of our relationship, he says “Not this again. You always bring that up. We can’t move forward if you constantly bring it up.” I bring it up because we haven’t addressed anything. Then when I do try and pour my heart out, he tells me that he never loved me and he used me and stuff for me to stop talking and go away but he doesn’t mean it.. He keeps telling me that I make him super depressed and wants to kill himself. This is a big deal for me. My son’s father committed suicide and it’s a big deal to me and I’m very sensitive to it but he always tells me that I make him want to do it. We ended up getting back together but it doesn’t feel like we are dating. I work two jobs and he gets super upset with me because I don’t respond to a message because I’m very busy but I try to get a chance when I can. Our MAIN problem in our relation was sex. He wanted it ALL the time. Constantly. I was molested by a family member when I was 7-9 years old and I have been very on edge about sex or touching. He knew. When I tell him no, he keeps touching me or says playfully “come onnnn it’s been a few days pleaseee!” And I move my hands away but he puts them back on his privates. I invited him over today because he told me he was very depressed. I told him we can movie a movie, play a game and we can laugh and everything. He wanted sex later that night. I told him I was just trying to make him happy since he was having a bad day. He then told me “Ok. Bye” and said “I waited patiently for you to have sex.” I told him all I wanted was to enjoy our time together but he told me he wanted sex or he was leaving. He does this every time So what do I do? I cave in and give it to him. BUT here’s the catch. I’m now a single 21 year old mom that works two jobs and still doesn’t make enough for even RENT. He bought he a car a year ago and threatens to take it away if I don’t have sex with him. I absolutely love that car and don’t have money for other car so I have been doing it to keep the car. I have nothing else to drive or he will take everything I have away from me and I won’t have anything. I don’t know what to do. The main reason I’m with him is to keep the car and I know that sounds so toxic but I need a vehicle to drive and take my son to daycare or anything. He got me so attached to the car and now he is taking it away from me and using it against me. If anybody has any advice to help me or ANYTHING. I am stuck in this toxic relationship and I know it’s not healthy. I need somebody’s help please.
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