What are you able to get done during the day?

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Hi ladies 
FTM here - 6 weeks PP. I had a rough delivery and a hard recovery (physically, like I couldn’t walk) . I am exclusively breast feeding and a SAHM. I am military so we don’t have family or a huge support network where we live. I feel so incapable some days. Like no chores get done, I can’t run errands. Sometimes I can’t even eat a meal. My son is very needy. He does not like to be left alone and he is in the phase where he just wants to be held alllll the time. I feel like I see so many moms are taking care of everything so well. Am I doing something wrong? I feel like I should be able to do more by now...

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At 6 weeks pp I was still not doing anything more than feeding my baby and trying to feed myself. 
I’d maybe get an easy chore done like dishes maybe fold laundry but my husband did most of the big cleaning chores till I was closer to 8 weeks postpartum.

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I’m 4 months in and can’t get anything done lol baby girl wants to nap on me during the day it’s rough

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6 weeks is still so early! Don't be too hard on yourself. Have you tried a baby wrap or carrier during the day? That's what I used to get light housework and errands done. Hubs and I ended up taking 30-60 min a few nights a week to tidy up after she went to bed. Then on weekends hubs was on baby duty so I could meal prep lunches for myself for the week. I found my LO didn't have any semblance of schedule until about 2 months so I took it easy and did what I could.

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Bless your heart! You are caring for your baby and that’s all you need to do right now momma! 6 weeks pp is nothing, it will get easier I promise! Try to find some easy snacks or when husband is home have him help you plan ahead things to eat during the days. You need those calories to keep up with baby! 
When I had my 1st & became a SAHM I told myself I got 12 weeks of maternity leave! And gave myself no expectations during that time. Once that was up, I started doing more around the house & stuff, but give yourself time & grace 💕

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Do you have a wrap or carrier? My baby is like this as well and we use a ring sling carrier. I absolutely love it

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I found the newborn period the hardest to get things done- it became a lot easier when my LO was around 3-4 months old. 
If you don’t have anyone to help with things like laundry, cleaning, meal prep, etc. then you just have to prioritise and let some things go that aren’t essential. Order groceries online to be delivered, if you do have time to cook make easy meals in large batches so you can freeze some, baby wear if you really need to get stuff done but your LO wants to be held.
My friend got a cleaner to come in a couple of times when she had newborn twins- I thought this was such a good idea if you can afford it!

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Yea your priorities are keep baby alive, keep you alive. You need to eat or youll lose your supply so dont feel bad if your baby cries for fifteen minutes so you can make and eat a sandwich. Go pee, guzzle some water take care of your needs because they can get done faster. The moms who have their house clean and homecooked meal on the table usually have a lot of help or a lot of money they can afford to outsource things like cleaning. For weeks my laundry system was “clean basket/dirty basket.” Didnt fold, didnt put away.

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Get a schedule and stay on it. We used Little Z’s and that helped babe transition into an easy schedule in infancy and later didn’t need to be “sleep trained” because the foundation was already built. 
The first 12 weeks still kinda sucked for me regardless, but once you get to the 12 week mark, things got significantly better and easier. I remember it was like a ray of sunshine coming into my life again. 
So just know 6 weeks PP, it’s survival. Don’t fuss and fret. Who gives a crap if the dishes arnt done. It’ll get done once it needs to. 
Hire someone if you can afford it to come in and clean the basics - or a high schooler for a little help. Even just to watch the baby long enough to take a shower, pop in a load of laundry, do the dishes, or whatever. Or have the high schooler do that kinda stuff.

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I have a lot on my to do list and usually only can do a few things between tending to baby and pumping. It's so hard! My baby is 10 weeks and recently started hating her carrier so that's making it even harder. But if baby likes a carrier that can be helpful. I just try to be okay with letting things go a little bit for now. It'll get easier.. I hope.

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At 6 weeks I started baby wearing and my accomplishments of the day were taking care of baby, feeding myself and taking a shower. Occasionally a load of laundry would get washed. She’s 7 mo now and we still use paper plates most of the time.

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