I need your advice

Hey guys I don’t even know where to start. I have been in this relationship with this guy for 3 months now. I don’t know how it is going, I don’t know if he likes me or not and I’m afraid to even ask him because it makes me feel maybe I’m being needy. All I want from him is to know that he cares for me and it’s not a waste of time. I asked him point blank if he liked me this was his reply

I know it sounds pathetic even asking him that but I don’t want to waste my time is it is not going to go anywhere. I have had a very shitty year and I don’t want to start the new year with someone who will end up getting my heart broken. Please don’t judge me but for Christmas I got him this Bose headphones he wanted and he didn’t bother to ask me what I wanted. I know Christmas is about giving not receiving but I would love to know you care about me. I tell him all the time how much I miss him and how much it sucks without having him near me. (We live in 2 different cities 4 hours apart) all he says is must be nice and tell me more. Last month when I saw him, I wrote him a letter (I know it’s cheesy) but I wanted him to know how I felt and his reply to me was “thanks for the love shown” 🤦🏾‍♀️ I regretted writing that letter immediately. Sometimes I have to be the one to text him

Good morning and sometimes he won’t message me for hours, or I have to be the one that checks up on him. The final straw was him

telling me that he’s coming over for Christmas and I called off from work for 2 days to be with him only for him to not even bother to tell me that he’s not coming anymore. Am I just over reacting, I need your advice.