Who is right?

Here is the issue. Please bare with me. So this past week we went to to my in laws (we drove and all work from home and kept it just us to be safe).

On our way home, I drove because my husband likes to work early and long. Anyway, it got to about midnight and I had to get gas. I was exhausted, but knew I had to get drive. So as I was exiting, My husband was sleeping,, and then he jerked up, yelling that I was going too fast. It immediately struck an attitude in me and I snapped back saying “I wasn’t, go back to sleep”. As I got gas he then proceeded to tell me two more times that I needed to drive more carefully. I brushed him off out of annoyance and exhaustion. It made him mad, but the conversation ended there.

The day after my husband had an attitude all day. I really didn’t know what was going on, and anytime I asked what was wrong he would just say “nothing”.

The day after he just kept getting angry at me, and finally told me what was wrong. He said he was really mad at me for how I talked to him on our way home. (I honestly forgot) I immediately apologized because I know I was in the wrong. I know he was just trying to help, and regardless of my exauhstion, I didn’t have to blow him off.

Instead of accepting my apology, he then said “and ya know, as I thought about it, every time I criticize you, you have an attitude. You’re always defensive.” I was honestly confused and asked “what are you talking about? When have I been defensive?” He immediatly got angry. He said “See, I knew you would say that!”

This was two days ago, and we hardly did anything for Christmas. He is just mad at me. Tonight, he just said he was going to start writing down every time I got definsave so he could point out a pattern. I left the room. I’m honestly so mad and hurt that he won’t let this go.

Is he right to do this? And I right for being mad that he wants to keep a record to “keep me accountable “?