Tips for postpartum sex?

Question

I’m so scared but craving that intimacy with my husband. We haven’t had sex since I was 30 weeks pregnant. I’m nearly 7 weeks postpartum.  I had a second degree tear and some other lacerations, including cervical and some on the interior of my vagina. 
What positions worked best for you?
What products did you use to help?
How can I prepare my husband without totally killing the mood? He just “wasn’t into” sex after 30 weeks of pregnancy. 
Any other advice? 
HELP.

Answer

I was in the same boat as you, I had a second degree with other lacerations. Being on top was the best with lots of lube. For me it was quite painful and we waited a couple days before trying again. Just go very slow and gently. Just trust your body!

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I didn’t have any tears and I waited until I was 10 weeks postpartum. I just couldn’t. My husband was completely understanding and I initiated the first time to have sex. 
You pretty much have to be in the mood. Anything like making out, caressing each other, that type of stuff. We used (and still to this day since I breastfeed) coconut oil. It’s a great natural lube for both men and women. Then take it SLOW, like VERY slow. Communicate with your partner. You should be the one delegating. Remember, the more relaxed you are, the easier it is. It’s okay to tell him to stop at any point. I know I did. Then I tried again a few days later because I too craved intimacy with my husband. 
I hope this helps!

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So I had a second degree tear and I’m 7 months postpartum and tbh it’s still sore when we have sex. Go slow, use lube and be very open to communicating to him when something is uncomfortable.

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Talk to him about it during a time when you aren’t actually having or about to be having sex.use lots of lube. Just take it slow and gentle. Think of it as very intimate sex—focus on your love for each other and not on the fact that it’s kind of scary that you’re having sex again after everything that has happened