Hmm... what you guys think?

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So I been going out with this guy for awhile , and I feel like I can see a future with him. Anyways, he just told me yesterday he got snipped because he doesn’t want kids he already had two. He’s 28 and I’m 23  I known him for 11 months I’m kinda mad about that because he didn’t discuss it with me .In the future I was at least one .would you ladies be mad if he didn’t tell you?
Edit: we’re together and he just told me yesterday

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Are you in an actual relationship with him? Seeing someone casually is different than actually being in a formal relationship, and he then doesn't need to discuss anything with you. If you guys are properly seeing each other then kids is something you should have discussed already.

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Did he do it before you?
How long have you been together? Are you together? 
I’m under the impression that you guys are casually dating. If that’s the case, you have no grounds to be upset.

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How long is a while? If he had it done while you were together, I’d think it would be information that he’d share. Otherwise, I don’t think that’s a topic that would come up for a little while if you weren’t exclusive or “serious.” My husband already had a vasectomy when we got together. He got it reversed after we got married.

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You are wayy too young to be dating a guy with two kids, I would move on.

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Simple. Get another man. If he got snipped without considering you.... then you not that important and neither what u want or need.
    Besides do u hv kids... if not get a man without him. zypu dont hv to deal with a baby mother or him paying child support. You also can start a family of your own. 
    Also go look up premarriage counceling questions so u hv an idea of how to date with purpose next time and not waste so many months. Boundaries in dating is also a great book.

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I would say it's a decision he came to before you were around and he was set on it regardless. I do think he should have told you since you're officially a couple but there's not much you can do now. If your ideal near-future involves having children with someone, you perhaps need to move on from him before you get too attached :/ good luck x

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If you told him early on you want kids and he never said anything, I get it. If you never talked about it, I still get being bothered but that's him not talking about his personal medical information. Definitely important to talk about the big stuff early.

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Children should be a discussion early on. If he was done and wanted to get a vasectomy then he should have told you. This way you could have decided if you still wanted to be with him.

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It’s ultimately his choice. And you have a choice as well. Continue to see him or move on since it’s not the ideal thing for you. He knew what he wanted and you know what you want. Neither should have to settle.

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Did it have it done while you were going out or before? 
It is a discussion you should have had with each other so yes I don’t blame you for being upset. 
You need to talk to him and explain how you feel

Hmm... what you guys think?

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