I'm starting to think that the relationship between me and my boyfriend is a loss. I've been thinking this for a while, but everytime I bring this up to him it's like he flips a switch and turns on the charm just long enough to keep me around longer. We have a 14 month old son and now I am pregnant again.

Everything was going fine for a little while. I even picked him up flowers yesterday as a gesture of appreciation and love, just so they could be laughed at.

What really bothered me though was when I asked him to put his boots back where they belong he gave me attitude about it. We have a designated location for all shoes about 3 feet away from where he feels his shoes should go. Last night I gave him credit that he didn't have them in the middle of a walkway, but most times he kicks them off and leaves them in walking path.

When I tried to explain to him why I wanted him to put them back where they belong he began saying things like "anything you want master". He has been doing that more often. We are trying to renovate our home and don't have the space we need and I just want to keep things as clean as possible. He also tried to tell me that I "leave things laying around all the time" and got extremely irritated when I asked him to name one of the things he couldn't.

That is a common occurrence. He blames me for something and when I ask for specifics he can't name a single thing I have done. And I am able to give multiple examples of the things he does when I try to talk to him about it. Like cleaning. There are many reasons I should have left in the entire 6.5 years we have been together, but every time I tell him I am done he turns on the charm and I stick around longer. I am starting to think he may be a narcissist.

Additional information:

Since it is needed, he is a SAHD, he has been emotionally abusive, has reached points of physical abuse when he drinks, threatening, etc. This is what I meant by other reasons to leave. I work a full time job and have no problem with him moving the shoe rack we decided to buy and place all our shoes. I try to make any decision that we need to make a team decision, he always leaves it up to me and will tell me that I never include him in any decision anyway when I always try to include him. I don't try to treat a grown man like a child, but when a grown man continuously acts like one it's very hard to find an adult way of doing things. This is why I feel like I may be dealing with a narcissist.