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I’m pregnant with my third so I’ve been thru this once and will again. My kids will stay with my parents who they adore and my husband will stay with me. They are really close with my parents so I guess it depends on the relationship bt your child and grandparents. I just like having the support of my husband at the hospital but I also know my first two are enjoying their time with grandparents.
Hospital stay for 2nd baby?
So since this is our second baby, we obviously have a child, so the hospital stay this time will be different. With our first husband stayed with me from the time we checked in to the time we checked out. But I don’t know if we both should be away from our daughter that long. I’m thinking he should stay through the birth obviously and then for a bit after we get settled in our room? Then go get our daughter from my parents and take her home. But I don’t want to be alone the entire time we are in the hospital so part of me thinks it would be easiest for her to just stay with my parents until we are discharged. She’ll likely not be allowed to come to the hospital to visit if Covid rules are still in effect by then (early July), which also means maybe I won’t be in the hospital very long?
What is everyone else thinking for their husbands/SO this second time around??
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I just had our second a month agoWe arrived on a Wednesday, I gave birth Thursday around noon then we were discharged at 2pm Friday. My oldest wasn’t allowed to come and visit, my mom watched him the entire time. But my husband did stay with me the entire time. My hospital tries to send you home as soon as possible (as long as you and baby are good)
Our hospital’s COVID policy is one support person, once we check in we’re not allowed out of L&D until I’m discharged, but they’re also only doing 24hr stays after the baby is born. My mom is planning on staying at our house with our toddler while we’re in the hospital.
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I read my hospitals policy recently and it sounds like the same thing: 1 support person there from admission to discharge. Maybe it’ll change by July. 🤞🏻
It depends on your older child and their relationship with the grandparents they’re staying with. My oldest is very comfortable with her grandparents and spends a lot of time with them (multiple times per week). So they came and stayed at our house with her. She came up to visit during the day (pre-covid). She missed me some in the mornings when she’d wake up but the rest of the time she was fine with it (she has just turned 2). It was only a couple of days (c-section) and she seemed totally fine with it all. I was glad to have my husband with me and I don’t feel that she suffered at all. She loves time with the grandparents.
Our oldest stayed with my parents for 6 days while we had our 2nd. We just had her on the 8th via planned induction turned emergency c-section. My parents picked up my daughter on the 7th and I didn't get to hug my daughter again until the 12th. Due to covid my husband couldn't leave the hospital or he wouldn't be able to come back until the next day. Due to my csection being an emergency they had to use general anesthesia and I was on some serious pain meds, if he had to leave for our oldest I'm not sure what would have happened as our hospital doesn't have a nursery. Also even with covid we had to beg them to let us leave on the 10th.All of that to say if your child is comfortable with their grandparents you should let them stay. You never know what can happen when giving birth.
I had my 2nd baby this past July. Our son stayed with my parents about 30 minutes away from the hospital. I was admitted at 7am Thursday morning, had her at 3:15pm, so we got to leave 3:15pm on Friday (just 24hr stay because we both passed every test). My husband just stayed with me the whole time, and my parents brought our son back home Saturday morning. Which that first night home was okay without our son there because I was still learning to breastfeed and my daughter wouldn't latch very good. I had to get back into the baby mindset because our son was 19 months old at the time so I was transitioning to toddler mindset. Getting use to a newborn again was rough at first. (Granted it was my first time breastfeeding too) Now they are 2 years old and 7 months old.
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