Why am I always made out to be the bad guy?

In my immediate family from my grandparents, their children (my mom and her brother), my siblings and first cousins (9 total) I'm the oldest.

Always even as a kid I had questions I never took anyone's word for it, or I needed more info and time to think so naturally as I grew up I had my own mind. My family always hated that about me (grandparents, mom, uncle and his wife). I questioned everything from religion, government, health, food, etc. Today I'm a vegan, an independent, spiritual and in an interracial marriage... all of which my family cannot comprehend to save their lives.

I'm against the COVID vaccine they produced it too quickly for me to trust it right now but I don't rule it out in the future. Before the pandemic I avoided family gatherings because 1. I don't eat everybody's food 2. I don't like to be around negative energy 3. I'm an introverted empath stuff like that is not my scene.

Luckily I married someone who understands me but my family just slapped a label on me, the rebellious one. They feel like I lead the charge with my siblings and cousins who are nothing like me. They have their own minds yet my mom thinks they're my minions forcing our millenial reprogramming mumbo jumbo on them, my mom's words.

My husband did agree with them on the subject of religion. I am spiritual but my husband is still religious so when I question religion we always have healthy debates unlike those with my grandparents. My husband says I do protest alot but I don't see it as protesting. I feel like I ask questions, do some research first. I am a science major it's in my blood.

I just hate how they've made me out to be so difficult when all I do is wait and see. Sorry for the long post this really made me feel badm