Is it rude to have anxiety ?

Question

I just saw this on Facebook and it makes me want to cry. This describes me perfectly. I have bad anxiety...

My ex boyfriend would always tell me that I am rude in public and I was always so confused because I didn’t understand why. He is an extrovert and super outgoing and friendly. And when we were together, when we went out, I would always feel burnt out talking to new people. I always wanted to leave early and whenever he made plans for double dates with people I didn’t know, I never wanted to go. I always forced myself to go out with him but he never took
The time to understand why I’m like that or took the time to be patient with me. 
When he broke up with me, he said that I am rude and embarrassing to him. That hurts my feelings so much and actually makes my anxiety worse.

Answer

People perceive it as “rude” because they don’t understand. That’s the problem. If it wasn’t anxiety induced, normally it would be considered “rude” if it was intentional. So many people don’t seem to get that it’s a defensive reaction to something that makes someone uncomfortable or feel anxiety. My bf says the same thing in social situations when it comes to me and my reactions. I don’t usually say anything and escape into my own head giving the idea that I’m rude or self absorbed.

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The way he was with you was rude. You are NOT rude. Sadly its normal to act those ways with anxiety. He definitely was not worth your time. You will find someone better and who will love you for you and understand and be patient with you. My husband and I suffer too if you are looking for someone to chat with you can always message me

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So I have always been like this and my family severely disliked me for this behaviour (probably still do to be honest). They don't really understand mental health issues.

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It’s not rude to prioritize your mental well-being, and if that means you have to leave early, ignore a call or message until you feel better (as long as it’s not work related), or postpone things until you feel better that’s okay. You have the right to say no, change your mind about going out, and set boundaries. If you’re acting distant, and you’re not excited to meet new friends, that’s fine. It’s okay to not be social, it’s okay to want some space, it’s okay to not want to befriend everyone you meet. You deserve to live comfortably within the boundaries you set. You shouldn’t be shamed for not wanting to do things other people enjoy doing. It’s not rude to have anxiety, but it is rude to belittle and ridicule someone for having it.

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Ok...so this is kinda interesting because it applies to me as well. I tend to be a very anxious person and am happiest in my little circle with theose closest to me. There really isnt anything wrong with that.
However...
There are a few things on that infographic that are extrordinarily rude and there really arent ANY excuse for, no matter how anxious you are.
Flaking out at the last minute is not ok. If someone thinks enough of you to make plans with you and you accept, it's your responsibility to meet with them. By flaking over and over again you show no respect for them or their time and that's never ok.
Not responding to calls is also not ok. I'm not saying you have to be on point every single time someone calls, things happen and people get busy...but to consistently not respond to calls or at the very least reach out via text or smoke signal or something is beyond rude. Someone thinks enough to want to share news with you or check in on you, by ignoring them you are being disrespectful. 
Not being excited to meet the new people in their life is a pretty bad one too. If those who love you think enough of you to want to share these new people of importance in their lives to not be happy or worse, sulk and be sullen is also disrespectful. Fake it like the rest of us.
The others are normal and perfectly ok. Set boundaries and say no if you need to. Nothing wrong with that. You do what's right for you 100% of the time...unless you are actively hurting someone else. At that point you become wrong.

Is it rude to have anxiety ?

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