relationship advice

me and my “boyfriend” have been together 4 years. im not materialistic at all and ik people are ready when they are ready but no promise ring, no talk about possible marriage, we don’t even live together. he sporadically brings the idea of marriage up and moving in together but its been 4 years and honestly all we have is a baby otw and ik that sounds backwards but it happened and i could’ve been more careful but i have always been the initiator in every last one of my relationships and sometimes it would be nice to not have to always seem to care about next steps in life.