My soon to be ex husband is Diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder along with other mental/psychological disorders. He was abusive in every way to my, my son and our dog. He has never cared for or been apart of our sons life hasn’t seen him in well over a year and our son is two. To give you an idea of how much he cares he said he would think about paying for half of our (then 1 year old) sons inhaler after his vacation (we’re talking $35).... he never paid. Our custody case got thrown out in September because his attorney asked for another extension and our judge didn’t feel like they were taking this seriously. Our GAL strongly recommended anger management, a psych evaluation, parenting courses, drug screens, and supervised visitation because my ex is THAT bad. Judge didn’t care still about my son and through it out which benefited my ex. We are all still pissed about it.

We filled immediately again in September and have yet to be given a new court date still. My ex doesn’t even live in the same state but is demanding 50/50 custody. The only time he wants to act involve is when money is involved. Couldn’t be bothered even saying happy birthday/merry Christmas but starts crying that I’m keeping his son from him when I got his stimulus check. Called me a thief for claiming my son my taxes stating “I was stealing his money that he rightfully deserves as his father”. Again has never seen my son since we seperated. I’ve tried allowing FaceTime calls to which he refused to cooperate with by providing me HIS schedule of when works best for him, till this past week. Problem is he is smoking/drinking during these calls thinking I can’t see it. And my son is NOT having any of it

My son is great with FaceTime calls, he’ll snatch your phone/laptop to talk to anyone and show them around. But my son is losing it, making sure he can’t be seen by the computer in his room, he’s banging on the door to be let out, he’s screaming, if he manages to get the door open he runs out and refuses to go back in. Mind I’m sitting in there with him and he fine until my ex calls. The past couple times my ex has called it’s ruined my sons attitude for the remainder of the day. A normally happy and fun kid is distraught, cranky, and very difficult to calm. What can I do? I know if I deny the calls it would look bad on me and my ex would claim I was denying him seeing my son but at what point can I say enough is enough.

I’m concerned cause I’ve seen first hand what this does to young children and I don’t want that for my son. I don’t want my son having to go through anger management and therapy at a young age because of how his father treats him. Granted if my son needs therapy I’ll obviously take him and support him but it should be because someone couldn’t be a positive role model and parent and would rather hurt him instead of help him