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No not at all. I probably would inform any caregivers that we have security cameras just to be considerate, but it’s your house, your child - there should be no issue unless she’s doing something inappropriate. I used to work as an au pair and lived with the family as well. They had security cameras too, and the only thing about it that made me partially uncomfortable is that there was a camera in my living quarters too. (My room had been their former nursery which is why I think there was one there). The dad was the only one who watched the cameras and I didn’t feel super comfortable with that. I just talked to the mom though and asked if it was okay if I put a sock over it for privacy, and she completely understood. Otherwise it was their house, their kids, if they feel better with those extra security measures then by all means they should have them up. I’d be a bit concerned by her reaction - she may feel like you don’t trust her or that she’ll be micromanaged now, but I’d have a sit down conversation with her and explain it’s nothing to do with her, but to do with your concern for your kids and home security.
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Brief background: we have cameras in our house in the playroom, kitchen & living room.
This past weekend my husbands aunt was watching our kiddo and we had just changed her daily schedule (naps, bedtime, etc) so around 830p while I was at work I pulled the camera app up to see how she was doing with the new schedule and saw that my husbands aunt had put her to bed almost 45 minutes early and I could hear her SCREAMING on the monitor. Not just crying or whining before bed, but upset screaming because she wasn’t ready to go to bed yet. So I texted my Hubby to let him know, he talked to his aunt and explained to her that since we moved her nap to a later time in the day, it’s important that she not bed put to bed too early. And she got all offended and said she “didn’t like being watched” and basically demanded that we turn the cameras off when she’s here watching out daughter.
My husband didn’t see an issue with it but I cannot believe this woman would make such demands about how we run our house and basically tell me I don’t have a right to check in on my baby whenever I feel like it because she felt uncomfortable “being watched”. And just for the record, I’m a nurse and don’t have time to sit around at work and constantly watch her. I literally check in right around bedtime just to see her bride she goes to sleep.
Soooo, am I overreacting? Am I the asshole for wanting to keep my cameras on?
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Your aunt shouldn’t have done that but it is definitely NOT OKAY to record someone without their consent.
Ke
This is before she knew about the cameras.
X
Why wouldn’t she just run to the bathroom to change quickly? I don’t see why she’d need to be undressing anywhere in the common areas or baby’s rooms
Ke
I wouldn’t be okay with that. What if she spilled something on her shirt and needed to take it off quickly and change it? Like you could have stumbled on to her shirtless because she didn’t know.
Maybe just have the cameras on where the baby is sleeping. I would be super uncomfortable with the ideas of cameras being on me all day long
He
Even if they didnt record, it would make me feel uncomfortable. I wont let my husband put up indoor securoty cameras for the same reason. It creeps me out that aomeone could choose to watch whenever they wanted, even if it is livestream only
Br
I get that, but they don’t record. It’s just a live stream camera we got before the baby was born to check on our dog & the house when we went home
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