How do I know?

Question

How do I know if someone is sex compatible??? I asked a question in here a few days ago and someone said maybe I’m not compatible with the Person I’m having sex with and that’s the reason I’m maybe not enjoying it.

Answer

I didn’t see your previous story however a lot of times when you’re not being pleased that’s usually the bottom line, or they’re not making the effort to try and please you. Or if things just are all over the place and you’re feeling constantly disappointed or they aren’t making the effort to try and please you. But basically if you’re not happy, that’s the bottom line￼. All your sexual needs being met, or your relationship needs being met, everyone has expectations of what they think a relationship is supposed to be like, effort and consistency, enjoying their relationship, best friends who sleep together basically and the sex is great and you both climax and it’s not just one-sided and one person making all the effort in the one person being pleased. That’s how you know if it’s the right thing for you or not, are you happy are you enjoying yourself etc. if not then walk away, why waste your time, move on to someone and see if you have chemistry with them. The guy I’m currently with we both have very high sex drives, we both have pretty high experience when it comes to having other sexual partners, he was an athlete in college and high schools of course he was popular with the ladies, he keeps in good shape, he’s older than me, he’s 57 and I’m 42, honestly I could go 12 rows like a boxer when it comes to sex, he can go three, back to back, no break in between which is amazing for a guy at 57, and he can control his penis he can control how long it lasts, whether he’s getting oral sex or he’s inside of me, if he feels like he’s getting close, he’ll pull out, he’ll go down on me, he loves going down on me and he loves pleasing me,  that man does anything and everything to please me in bed and outside of bed, we are best friends, we’ve known each other 20 years, it was timing perfect timing I was on the tail end of a previous relationship that was going sour because he was hardly reaching out, I would hear from him once a week if that, and I got tired of it I told him I would stay as long as I was happy I wasn’t happy so I moved on. Life is too short to waste it was someone who’s not gonna make the effort for you. And I’ve been with this guy for the last six months and I’ve never been happier, we have the same sex drive, we’re crazy about each other, and it was instant from the moment that we got together, we are all over each other like two teenagers, and it’s probably the best I’ve had in a very actually now ever, all of my previous partners were selfish and only cared about their own climax and couldn’t care less about mine they were all jerks who just used me, this guy is so refreshing and amazing, and all we wanna do is please each other and I for the first time ever it’s actually a turn on to please him. I love going down on him he’s the first guy that it didn’t feel like a chore or something to suck it up and take one for the team and just get it over with, I actually enjoy pleasing him because he thoroughly enjoys pleasing me. He loves the way I taste, he says he could go down on me for hours, he can control his penis which is the best part, not a minute man. we are like two teenagers and it is so much fun and it’s so refreshing and I’ve never been happier that’s what chemistry is, evenly matched in every way, both people putting an equal effort, amazing and anytime I have a complaint or something he could improve on inside or outside the bedroom it gets resolved and it gets improved on the next time that we are together, any argument or disagreement gets resolved immediately without screaming or anything like that. any kind of unhappiness or mood swings from me because of my cycle he puts up with it and knows I don’t mean anything I say because I’m just being emotional, and he can take me from a complete 180 turn of how I’m feeling and make me laugh, and forget my mood swings. We both have the same sense of humor, we both crack up and laugh about everything, even during sex we start laughing well I do because it’s just everything we say is funny and we have the best sense of humor and get along so well. I’ve never been better matched with someone. We can talk about anything and everything, he knows my past, I know his, he’s the first guy who was in intimidated by my past, I was both a stripper in a dominatrix, I’ve done everything under the sun, and my￼￼￼￼￼ past from childhood on up is a lot. Sexually abused as a child. Rape. Two miscarriages, daddy issues. You name it. He accepts me and all my craziness and mood swings every month. And can take me from that to cracking up instantly. That’s how you know. Does he make you want to be a better person. Does he make you happy. Are your needs both emotionally and physically being met etc. if not then why bother sticking around. Why settle for less than you deserve

Answer

You could have all the chemistry with someone and not like or enjoy sex with them, I suppose as you get to know them if they conversation comes up talk about it see if they have the same interests as you it still may not translate to the bedroom not really anyway other way to find out

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