Deadbeat parents

So I have this belief and it honestly offended a lot of people. I don't believe being a deadbeat parent means you don't see your kids or pay for anything for them. I think you can pay for a roof over your kids head and be in their life and still be a deadbeat. If you pay for a roof over your child's head but make it your goal everyday to make them feel as worthless as possible, you're a deadbeat. If you are physically or emotionally abusive, you're a deadbeat. If you let other people abuse your kids. You're a deadbeat. Deadbeat doesn't just mean uninvolved. It can mean emotionally uninvolved. Several of my friends got mad when I said this and said as long as you feed your kids you can treat them however you want. I don't believe that. What do you girls think?