Getting overly pissed off for no reason

My baby is almost 4 months old now and I’m on maternity leave still but I’ll eventually be returning to work. My bf is a SAHD while he studies and plans to start up his own business in design. Which is FINE! We’ve talked about it a lot! I’m proud of him for following his passion.

I have depression and often think I’m not doing enough so I keep an app to keep track of all my achievements for the day. I’m doing a lot! Cooking, cleaning, baby care, shopping, washing, bins. I take precious moments to do my hobbies for 10-15 minutes.

My bf complained about the kitchen being dirty today. He usually cleans it because he’s particular about it. So I said “I thought that was your job” wrong move... he told me it’s a shared space an we should all clean it. We’ve never assigned jobs and he’s right. We all should. And I do usually cook.

He does a lot with the baby and he has a lot on his plate with his study. But I just felt pissed because I vacuumed and swept the house, cleaned both bathrooms and took the bins out. I didn’t ask for help or for him to do it. I just thought we’d assigned ourselves jobs I guess.