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To be bluntly honest you sound petty as hell. You aren't mad or upset due to you trying and not succeeding when she did but rather because you wanted to be the one with a kid first to get as much attention as possible. If you attitude is "well she is pregnant first so why even bother us having kids because we don't get the thunder" ummm maybe you don't need kids. Life happens and so do mistakes...like 1 night stands ending in a baby. Personally I would be excited my kid could potentially have a cousin in such a close age range. You did everything right...but your timeline doesn't matter with someone else. She now has her own timeline. Procreation and child raising isn't a competition. And I have 4 siblings and my husband has 5. He was the 2st in his family to get married and have kids...I was the last to have kids. Both families were still excited the same amount whether it was the 1st grandbaby or the 11th (yes my 1st was their 12th grandchild). And who knows maybe she won't need that much help...or maybe the grandparents will be able to love and support all of you. And lastly you are not being punished...how would that even be a thing. Are you wanting a child to add that team member to your family and love and care for them or to be the first mid with the 'house/career/kid' trifecta- not like you get an award lol. I am sure this sounds blunt but you sound petty and spoiled and hope you guys re-evaluate your reasoning
TTC and SIL is pregnant
I’m furious, my husband and I are relatively new to TTC because we had to wait due to me being in school and buying a house. So we were so excited planning how to tell his parents that they would be grandparents for the first time and now his adopted sister has come out and said she’s pregnant, on accident. The dad is not going to be in the picture (we believe it was a one night stand) and we feel so robbed because we waited to do everything right. Now if I got pregnant now we would be due less than 2 months apart and I feel like our first child would be overshadowed because SIL will need so much more help. I’m feeling like “why bother” now because I know what awaits us as far as familial support. My family hasn’t cared much about any of our achievements so I’m not expecting anything there. It just feels so unfair that we’ve done the right thing and now we’re being punished.
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I mean I understand family support but this is super petty, she didn't get pregnant as a 'fuck you' to you and your husband. Babies aren't a competition and instead of worrying about a possible small age gap think of the friendship your children could have. You're not entitled to get pregnant first just because you have a career and a house.💁♀️
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