Am I wrong for being mad?

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My husband wanted to get a large tattoo. I wasn’t totally on board but it’s his body and he works hard to I didn’t say no please don’t etc. he’s already spent over $1000 on it and last night he’s like don’t forget I’m going back Thursday for the final apt. I was like you never told me that I thought it was done. He swears he told me. Believe me, he didn’t. Anyways, I wasn’t mean or anything but I’m just frustrated how much money he’s putting into this tattoo. I’m working 60 plus hours a week. He works hard too- and I want him to enjoy our money but come on!! He just told me he wants to refinance and take out more money in our mortgage- like I’m sorry your willing to spend over a thousand dollars on a tattoo but we’re going to pay to refinance the house and take out more money? Makes no sense. I nicely told him how I felt and he got nasty. I just went to bed- woke up today he won’t even look at me! 
Am I wrong?

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I would never refinance just to get money for a tattoo! That’s not financially smart in my opinion. It sounds like you were calm andyou told him how you felt, but he just didn’t want to hear it.

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It’s his body, and if his portion of bills are paid, I’d say yes, you are wrong to be upset that he chose to spend his money on a tattoo. 🤷🏼‍♀️ If bills aren’t paid, you should have said no from the beginning.

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Nope, you’re not wrong. He’s being irresponsible, I agree it doesn’t make sense. If he can spend that much money during a time he should be saving, then he can certainly save the money he wants to take out of the home. This is a time for saving money, not spending it. You never know, you have a job today and gone tomorrow.

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Does he spend large amounts of money like this often? Because if he does then I would be concerned. But a 1000 dollar tattoo one time wouldn’t be that big of a deal as long as it’s his money and you aren’t going into debt to pay for it. If he makes large purchases often then I would be concerned and I’d have a talk with him about saving more money. And you never clarified why he wants to refinance your house? If you guys aren’t hurting for money, I don’t see what the point of refinancing is

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If the tattoo is not finished then I can understand why he needs to go back for the final appointment. No one wants a half ass tattoo. He works for his money so let him finish what was started especially when he’s paying for it. 
Him taking out money from the mortgage is between the both of you, but as far as the tattoo goes in my opinion you’re wrong.

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His body, his choice. As long as his part of bills are paid you have no reason to be upset.

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So let’s say the tattoo costs $1500. One time. I agree that’s a lot, but for a good large tattoo that requires multiple sessions with a good artist— I wouldn’t be shocked by that price tag.  If he wants to refinance a mortgage, that has to be for a lot more than a one time payment of $1500, no? I just don’t see the comparison here being made between getting the tattoo and refinancing a mortgage. To me, not spending that $1500 wouldn’t be the answer to whatever reason he wants to refinance. If the bills are paid and he has the money, he can get the tattoo. Also if you don’t combine your money I really don’t see how you have a say in how he uses money he earns. We have a combined bank account so in my marriage a $1500 purchase would be a conversation, but if I get $500 for my birthday I don’t ask him what I can spend it on.

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If he's working hard and wants to spend bis money on something he really wamts just let him...

Am I wrong for being mad?

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