Should you always feel like you’re in the Honeymoon phase?

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My bf and I have been in a funk I guess. I think we’re over the honeymoon phase and we just don’t have that spark like we use to. I love him and our life but I feel like there’s something gone. Someone said your whole relationship should be like the honeymoon phase and some said no. Thoughts?

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Nope and I wouldn't want it to be that way. 
I learned a valuable analogy when I was in a community/nature group when we were off on a kayaking trip.
Relationships are like fires. When you first start it up (honeymoon phase) it's bright, intense, unpredictable, and quick to fade if you're not constant feeding it.  For a long lasting relationship, you want to be able to cook with the fire to sustain yourself. That means transitioning that first flame into a deep and constant heat by putting in big logs aka big events, emotions, ups and downs, deep meaningful things. The denser(more meaningful) the log, the hotter and longer it burns.  It may not burn as bright, but it is what you need to be able to produce consistent and quality meals. 
Even if you neglect it, you can still save it even with one tiny ember if you are desperate enough to put in the work required. Don't recommend this though, it's just easier to keep the fire going.

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I don’t know anybody who has felt like they’re always in that phase. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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In reality no. I mean there are days when it’s honeymoon like but then there are days when it’s tough. My husband and I have been together since 2006 at 15 and got married in 2019. We are friends before anything else and he knows he can come to me even when he is unhappy.
We focus on making sure the other knows just how much we love them. We have 4 kids and 1 due next month. We make it work. We don’t fight and argue either which I know sounds impossible but we don’t.

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It’s called a “phase” because it’s exactly that, a phase. That’s the period where everything is new and exciting and you still get nervous butterflies around each other. It doesn’t last forever and it shouldn’t.

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Realistically, you’re not in the honeymoon phase 100% of the time. People who believe this, are usually young and naive people, who dont have much experience in relationships. It’s like a fairytale fantasy 😬

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No, but I think you should always feel (in) love. Comfort and security.

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Nope. Life doesn’t work like that. Relationships don’t work like that. It’s easy to be in a relationship when everything is sunshine and rainbows but they won’t always be like that. What’s more important is figuring out how to continue to love and respect your partner even when you’re not in the honeymoon phase anymore.

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The honeymoon phase wears off and a comfortable, stable relationship should emerge. My husband and I have been together almost 11 years and 95% of the time we adore each other, 5% of the time we’re annoyed with each other but still respectful.

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It comes and goes, relationships struggle and evolve. We had our honeymoon phase, and then we struggled a LOT. We got it together and this honeymoon is 10x better. I don’t think you should ALWAYS feel like you’re in the honeymoon phase, but I don’t think it should ever go away completely. At least I really hope it doesn’t

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No that is why it is called a phase. Though that doesn't mean you say well this the way it is now so it is take it or leave it. You can work on your relationship and try and spice things up or do some new or different than usual things to maybe pull you out of the rut etc. Though sometimes you are also just going to have some not so great phases to get through as well.

Should you always feel like you’re in the Honeymoon phase?

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