A little background... it took my husband and me over 3 years to have our beautiful son. We haven’t been using protection since he was born and I’m using OPKs, etc and am still not pregnant with our second. It’s been 2 years already. Yes.. every month it’s hard, but I know if it’s meant to be, it will be.

Now... one of my friends is TTC her first. I know her husband is frequently traveling, which makes it difficult and she has failed 2 rounds of <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IUI</a>. I was texting her the other day, just catching up, and she is venting about work and then apologizes for going off about little things because she had taken a pregnancy test that morning at it was negative and she had been convinced she was pregnant.

I understand that frustration and heartbreak.

Now she knows my history and that I know what it’s like to struggle, and get your hopes up every month and then have a good cry and then try again... and again... and again...

So I said I hear ya... we’re still trying too. Her reply?

“I’m sorry you’re struggling but you do have a beautiful son. I’m telling you I’m facing a very real possibility that I may not ever be a mother. I know you don’t mean to be, but I think you’re being insensitive.”

And she hasn’t talked to me since.

I was surprised. I though as women we could support each other, especially since I’ve been through the struggle. I feel like she has invalidated my feelings because I already have a child. It is just as hard the second time around to go through this.

Am I really being insensitive? I feel like I had wonderful friends to lean on during my struggles and didn’t resent them for having children already. Us ladies are in this together.