Backstory is that a few months ago, I shared a post on Facebook explaining why consent is so important to teach toddlers/young children. Specifically when it comes to forcing them to hug or kiss family members. My daughter will hug who she feels comfortable hugging, but will hang back when it’s people she doesn’t see often. And I do not push it, because I wouldn’t expect her to feel comfortable hugging someone she hasn’t seen in a while.

My husbands uncle commented, saying he’s “only on this earth for so long, so he’ll hug and kiss his kids all he wants”

I basically said that’s up to you, but I’ll teach my daughter that it’s okay to say no to his advances.

(This is a man who showers with his 1.5 year old grandson, and once called my newborn nieces vagina “cute”)

Well, my sister in law (nieces mom) said she had to defend me to him the other day because he was making comments about how I choose to parent. (Based on this one post)

He was saying that he doesn’t understand why I need to teach her consent, blah blah. And said that he’ll hug and kiss my daughter all he wants.

I’m torn. Because these comments obviously pissed me off, but I can’t please everyone with my parenting. Just the fact that he said he’s going to completely dismiss my choice and my daughters consent and do whatever he wants anyways.

Do I confront him and say I’m not okay with the comments he was making, or do I wait for the next encounter and just see how it goes?

My husband said he’s family and we can’t just avoid him. But I told him that just because he’s family doesn’t give him a pass to do and say whatever he wants.