Would you be mad?

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My husband and I haven’t been seeing eye to eye lately. We have been ttc for over 2 years have had multiple miscarriages and failed ivf cycles. We took a small break as he got Covid and didn’t want to take any chances. We weren’t arguing tonight but we haven’t been communicating normally and He said to me tonight “every month I have to deal with a week of this shit, every single month”. Insinuating I’m on my period. Which I am not. I’m not even due for 2 weeks. I’m just disgusted that he can say that knowing how hard it is for me to see my period every month. Just wish he was more supportive and even tried to understand what we go through 🥺

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That was mean to say but I don’t think he was referring to you getting your period. I think he meant how you act when your on.

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It can be mentally exhausting for him if you go crazy everything you get your period, if you do. Its not just about how you feel

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It sounds like you’re trying to have a baby to save the marriage, and that never works out. The fact that you haven’t gotten pregnant in two years is obviously draining mentally, emotionally and physically on both of you. I’m gonna be honest with you I was with my ex for five years, I had two miscarriages, years later I realized it was a blessing in disguise that I never had kids with him, I was never meant to have kids with him, and it was a blessing in disguise because I never had to deal with him ever again. Maybe you are not meant to have kids with him because the relationship may not work out.￼ it’s understandable why it’s disappointing, it’s emotionally draining, I’m sure with you being on all the hormone injections and everything with the IVF, you’ve been all over the place emotionally as well. It’s not easy for you and it’s certainly not easy for him. And a lot to say I think you need to stop trying to conceive and work on the relationship. Figure out if you even have a reason to keep trying both the relationship and for a baby. Maybe seek counseling￼ Both individually and as a couple.

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He should have maybe phrased it nicer but this is probably effecting him too. You said 2 yrs if ttc. For a guy that means he probably stresses out during your ovulation week also because he wants to be successful and is feeling bad he can give you a baby. If he is like my husband (took us 5 yrs) sex might seem like a chore to him at times. Then if you have a hard time every period week...whether it is sadness, taking it out on him, being generally unhappy all week that would mean 1-2 weeks every month he is stressed, upset, and dealing with your emotions first. Potentially half the last 2 years have also been just as hard for him. I wouldn't be mad at all, I would be concerned I was not thinking of jis feelings enough and seeing hiw he is actually doing. Having a hard time conceiving is hard on both parties. My husband had issues feeling "less of a man" because he couldn't get me pregnant. He had s harder time with it then I did. He should br nice to you but maybe think back and see if maybe you treat him different at points of the month and see where he is coming from also. Doesn't mean he can be outright mean to you, but his frustration may be very justified. I hope you guys work through it and get your baby soon:) Good luck

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Did you ask what he meant by that comment? It may be something else just having to deal with the disappoinment,they get disappointed too 😔 I know my bf does

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Maybe you guys need to take a step back from ttc and just focus on each other and the relationship. You don’t want to be one of those couples that ends up conceiving then getting a divorce shortly afterwards. 
Also, how do you know he was talking about your period?  I was thinking he’s tired of ovulation week.  Sex on demand for people can be draining.

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