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I’d be grateful to have a doctor following ACOG standards and not inducing or planning a major abdominal surgery with no medical reason.
Officially over being pregnant
This is my third baby and I’m extremely frustrated with my doctors office. I wanted to have a plan c-section only because I have two other children that I would have to find care for and a job to her back to and since FMLA is terrible in my state I can’t afford to be off a long time. Since COVID my MIL is very reluctant to travel and I was planning on flying her out for a few days to watch my other two children but like I said she’s very hesitant to do so... I try to explain this to my doctor of course his answer was no I don’t do planned c-section when they are not necessary so you’ll have to figure it out, now I’m worried that I’ll have to give birth by myself since we have no one to watch our other two children. I’m am so stressed out right now ugh
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Ma
I keep hearing this comment repeat in my head. I don’t think anyone is being mean. Being mothers and women doesn’t mean blindly supporting someone. People are trying to be supportive by giving the best advice they can, it’s not always what we want to hear but that doesn’t make it mean.
Ma
Unfortunately a lot of doctors don’t care and it is more about money. In addition, induction and csection create potential for very dangerous outcomes that could make any situation significantly harder. If something bad were to happen to baby or mom it could cause more harm than good. I would do interviews with baby sitters and find someone willing to be on call in the month of your due date and of course be willing to pay a little more, you’ll still pay less than you do for a csection. Who knows, might find a really good baby sitter that you can use at other times that could be cheaper than a day care.
Ma
Mental health is just as important as physical. Her situation is clearly stressful and weighing on her... I guess we’ll have to agree to disagree.
It sounds like your doctor is following guidelines and is basing the answer on a medical standpoint. From a personal account - a c section is much physically harder on your body than a natural birth (I’ve had both) and you would not be able to lift your other kids, drive, bend for at a minimum 4 weeks but typically 6. I understand you’re in a bind with your other kids, that is truly difficult and covid makes things much harder. What about hiring help for the days you’re in the hospital?
ba
I hear ya as a mom of 2 toddlers myself - what about hiring a nanny temporarily? You don’t have to worry about moving the kids in and out of the house and you can even set up cheap cameras (Wyze cams) so ou can keep an eye out when you’re in the hospital for your own comfort
br
I can setup drop in daycare but my problem is going into labor I would have to wait for that then pack the kids up drop them off then Go to the hospital which can be a process with two toddlers
Um... It would be much easier to schedule an induction versus a major surgery.
Su
This is simply not true. And this is coming from someone who had one and hated it and would not have another one. They do raise your risk of more intervention but to say they are insanely dangerous is a huge stretch. In the case of the original poster it is much safer to be induced rather than jump right into a major surgery for convienience.
Ma
Inductions are insanely dangerous
br
They won’t let me do that either
I think that's pretty standard honestly. I know most doctors let you choose if you want a c-section or not if you've already had one but if you haven't had one before you usually can't pick and your insurance most likely wouldn't cover it either. I get being frustrated though I have 2 kiddos also that I had to plan care for while I'll be having my third baby and my husband won't get paid for the week he'll have off to help me.
Same here I asked to be induced for the same reason, no one to watch my other kids. Last time my daughter could come to the hospital and wait for family to come get her but not this time. It’s my third so they expect me to go quickly. With my second I arrived at 6cm with bulging waters so I’m hoping things are a little slower this time around so I can at least get family here before we head to the hospital. She said I could be induced at 39 weeks if I was uncomfortable but they’d prefer me to go into spontaneous labor. I totally get how you’re feeling, but I also understand my doctors perspective as well.
Have you ever had a csection before? This is my third pregnancy and they plan them where I am but this will be my 3rd csection so I’m wondering if it’s different since I’ve had two already?? Either way I feel you on this 1000000%. I would look for a new doctor if you can to Atleast explore options. 🤷🏼♀️
Co
That is ridiculous I am so sorry you’re having to deal with this!!
br
I have not had a c-section but I told my doctor that this was my last baby and I wanted to her my tubes tied right after so I’m baffled as to why he’s unwilling to talk about other options Instead of just waiting for my water to break
Co
I personally don’t think it takes long to recover from a csection. I work in a hospital and was cleared at the same time frame someone with vaginal birth would’ve been cleared. And I loved having piece of mind that I had childcare already set up
Here was similar discussion and situation and they were considering inducing labor on specific day. Interesting situation because I know there are countries when all women get planned c cention (more or less planned) and special plan is needed for natural labor (interesting cultural differerance. Not sure what is the reason your doctor answered like that, if it is safe and right time would it really cause any problems?
I feel you. Our plan was to have my c section scheduled for a couple dates, that way it was on the books and we could arrange care for my daughter. My obs office is now saying they want to wait closer to the end of March to actually schedule, and my high risk doctor told me just go into labor naturally and then when you show up to the hospital we’ll do your c section 🤦🏼♀️ so frustrating!
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