I think the worst thing your family can do is sit and hold a meeting to tell you you shouldn’t have more children while in the middle of having a miscarriage. They didn’t know it and I’ll never tell them but it broke my heart being told I shouldn’t have anymore children while loosing one my husband and I were trying for.

I had been aware the day before that it was going to happen as my doctor had called to tell me the bad news. On top of dealing with the stress of having to have a family meeting I was now aware that I was having my second miscarriage and it hurt so much. I had to mourn a little faster this time as I have another child I have to care for but I did and I waited for it to come. The day of the meeting it started and I was devastated but I cleaned up got dressed and went to this meeting already emotional. Hearing my brother tell me i shouldn’t have anymore children until I’m financially stable(which financially stable in their opinion is owning a home and not renting) I started to cry. This is not the first time I’ve been told to not have anymore kids. For the past 2 years I have been told I should just be happy with my child and not have anymore. Not because I can’t but because my family doesn’t want me to. There’s nothing medically wrong with me there’s no reason I can’t have another child. The only reasoning I see is because they don’t want it. My brother can have his wife cheat on him come back and have another baby no problem but I’m not allowed to in their eyes. I know they want things to be better but we feel comfortable having another one. no one is ever truly 100% financially ready for a baby and if I wait I’ll never have another. I’ve already put it off for 2 years and I don’t want to anymore. But there I sat being told what to do. A married adult being scolded by family about my household and life. So I sit and I listen and I hold back my tears as I lost my baby without them even knowing.