My husband never wants to have sex with me. He always says he’s too tired and now he might be taking a management position at his job that will make him even more tired. I’ve tried wearing lingerie for him to get him in the mood, initiating sex, I’ve even offered to pay for him to go see a therapist or doctor (at one point he said it was his weight) and he refuses to even go. I’m at my wits end and I have no idea what to do. He makes me feel so unwanted and I’m trying to understand that he’s tired all the time but when he does nothing to try and change being tired it’s frustrating. I don’t use toys because I prefer sex with him and it makes me feel more connected with him but since he wont have sex with me at all I’m starting to feel distant. Ps he knows how I feel. We’ve had many talks about this subject but nothing changes