When do I get my turn?

So for the past year my husband has had a hard time with anxiety. His anxiety causes him to freak out and panic over the least little thing. It started when he got an ear infection and it caused his anxiety to be so awful. It finally started to get better and now he’s back to square one. My dad passed last April and since my anxiety and depression has been awful, but I haven’t said a word and pretended to be happy and handle everything in our house, so that my husband doesn’t have to deal with more than he has to. I’m on the edge and I just can’t cope anymore. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to make his anxiety any worse and I’m so tired of not having anyone to talk to about my anxiety or how depressed I feel.