Is abortion an option?

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Hi! I know this topic is very sensitive. Please no judging.
I have two boys, a 2.5 year old and a 4 month old. I found out just now that I maybe pregnant with baby #3. Im not yet ready (I know what you’re thinking, I thought of that too). We weren’t careful. I’m thinking of aborting the baby but Im not sure. I dont want to regret this when Im older. Im also a catholic, I dont want tk be in hell when I die. However, having three is just too much. Im going crazy now. I have to decide soon. Please let me know your thoughts. Btw, Im already 36, with stable job but I dont think my company will allow two years of maternity leave. Thanks so much in advance for your answers.

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First, you absolutely will NOT go to hell for having an abortion!
Second, you need to do what’s best for you and your family.
Don’t let people on here guilt you into having the baby if it’s not something you want to do.
But also don’t have an abortion if it’s not something you’re 100% sure about.
You do not need to do adoption and you do not need to have the baby because some people tell you that you should.
You first need to find out if you are pregnant and then make your decision.
It’s your body and your life and no one can tell you what’s best for you!

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You’re going to get much better help in the abortion support room than here. I think this one will get moved anyways?

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You gotta do what’s best for your family🤷🏻‍♀️ so you and father should have a serious conversation..

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Discuss all options with your partner. Abortion is an option as long as you feel you need it as one. 
Approximately 1/3 of all women will have an abortion during their lifetimes, across all ages, marital statuses, and religions. 
My mother had my two older brothers and found out she was pregnant again and had an abortion. She had tried to get her tubes tied after her second birth, but no doctor would let her because of her age and the fact that she had no daughters, only sons. She got pregnant with me two years later but didn’t find out until 16 weeks pregnant so (for her personally, not legally) it was too late to have an abortion. 
The point is there’s no right or wrong answer to this question that anyone else can give you. This is a personal choice. The only opinion that truly matters is yours (and your partner’s, if you want them involved in the decision). Anyone else’s opinion is meaningless.
I’m not religious, so I can’t speak on how that must be affecting you, but I imagine it’s very difficult. All I can say to that is I can’t believe in a God that would punish a woman for making the choice that’s best for her and her family, regardless of what that choice is. It’s not selfish to have an abortion when it’s the right choice for *you*.

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Hey ladies! I didnt mean to spark a debate and I think I might have posted in the wrong channel. Sorry, my brain is not working any longer.

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It sounds like you haven’t even take a test- I would start there. Then absolutely no shame, I was TWO not MORE and I’m good with that decision for a million reasons. Pregnant with our second now and I feel like if I got pregnant again after this tubal after the second high risk csection upcoming.. I would heavily heavily heavily consider an abortion. It would be sad, but it would be the right decision for my family.

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Thanks for your answers. 
I have now posted it in the other group.

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So I’m not going to lecture you on the abortion thing. No one can make that call but you. 
But, I’ll say this. I’m not a holy roller by any means. I’m not religious AT ALL. Yes, I believe in God but I don’t go to church. However I’m a firm believe that he will never give you more than you can handle. I believe every baby is a blessing. 
I had an abortion in my past. I never speak of it for obvious reasons. Yes, I regret it but I knew at the time it wasn’t the right time. This was about 10 years ago and yes I still think about that baby. 
Just wanted to give you insight from both sides.

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You know what’s best for you and your babies. It’s totally an option. May not be the BEST option for you but that’s something only you and the dad can decide.

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All i can say is ive been there and i regret my decision every day. I wish i prayed about it. I wish i spoke with more people about it, with God about it. God will forgive you if you chose to do so, dont let anyone tell you he wont but trust me when i say it scars you. Message me if youd like to talk. Its something that I wish i did. 😓🙏🏽

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