To preface: My husband and I have been married for 6 months now, and have been together for just over 2 years. We honestly have the perfect relationship. We love and support each other so deeply, and we probably give each other literally hundreds of kisses and snuggles every day. We do everything together and we're best friends. We've never had any kind of argument, and we're totally open with our communication. We're planning our wedding for 2022 and are excited to grow our family soon.

But here's the thing. He's constantly stressed. He's such a sweet man who has never and could never hurt anybody or anything. He rarely even swears honestly. He's just a big teddy bear really. But lately he's been... different. Every little thing stresses him out. He's like a giant walking ball of anxiety, stress, and possibly even depression. Over the last month or 2, he's had multiple freak outs. Like MAJOR freak outs. Over stupid little things.

Back in November our Internet went out for like an hour and he flew off the handle. Stomping around the house swearing, muttering, throwing cords and Internet cables everywhere. Finally I had to step in and tell him he needs to calm down and go lay in bed. He listened, went to the bedroom and took a short nap and was better.

A few weeks later he came home from work and saw that there were dishes piling up in the sink. I was sleeping but I woke up because I heard dishes clattering and breaking. And of course he was at the sink freaking the hell out and yelling that he always has to do dishes and nobody does them while he's out of town. And then he accidentally set down a plate too hard and it shattered so then he slammed the dish washer and broke a glass. I told him he cannot be breaking things and if he's going to get destructive then he can just go sit in his car. He stopped, took a few deep breaths and calmed down. I told him to just go take a nice hot shower and go to bed and I'll clean the kitchen up. He did insist on helping me clean the glass, and after that he went and showered.

And then just yesterday my headset died and I asked him to find me my charger cord. He found it but then the headset wouldn't charge. He threw the headset, threw the multiple cables, and the usb boxes we were trying to charge it with. He went on a rampage about how companies keep making things that don't work and everything is so expensive and just wouldn't stop. Finally I yelled at him and told him the raging needs to stop. I said I wouldn't have kids with him until these issues are resolved. I said if he ever hurts me or our children accidentally or otherwise, I'm done.

He stopped and just sat quietly for like an hour. He looked like he was about to cry. I suggested seeing a therapist or getting on anxiety meds and he agreed. We're looking at counselors for him and he's going to see his doctor at the end of the month.

I know it's stress. I know it's mental illness. He's not a bad man. But he can't keep raging and breaking things. I asked him what's stressing him out and he keeps telling me he doesn't know. He just says there's something wrong with him and he doesn't know what or why.

The last few months I've been doing everything. I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. I don't know what's going to set him off and I'm trying so hard to make sure he has no stress. Normally we cook together and share responsibility but I've been doing everything so he can just relax. He feels bad and tries to help but then he just gets upset over it all and gives up. And to clarify, he's never been mad at me. It's never ever been directed at me or because of anything I did. He's never hurt me or even so much as raised his voice at me.

But I'm worried about that changing. I'm worried if he doesn't get help it will only get worse. He knows if he ever lays a hand on me or treats me poorly I WILL leave. But I want his mental health to be okay. I know that's not who he is. I don't know what else I can do besides get him to see a counselor and maybe get on meds. I'm losing my own sanity and as much as I'm trying to be understanding, I'm getting to the end of my rope with his outbursts and breaking things.