My boyfriend is an infantry vet with a plethora of mental issues that make him fear and doubt and second guess. Yesterday he told me that he can't move with me to another state for my dream job like we had planned and he knew about for almost a year. We work together and both got the transfer to this new location. He said he didn't want to sell his house and start over even though he doesn't have family or anyone else here. I told him he was choosing a house over me and he kept saying it wasn't like that. He then said that although he loves me, his feelings for me aren't what they used to be even though the included picture is from December. Then he suggests long distance because he "needs to miss me" in order to realize I'm worth the move (wtf?). Then he gets drunk and tells me he doesn't know why he hurts me like that, that he's trying to push a good thing away and he doesn't deserve me then says he will follow through with his promise of moving. Then he wakes me up randomly throughout the night to tell me how much he loves me. In the morning he tells me again he will think about it but that I should look at options I can afford on my own because he still doesn't want to move. I signed a lease and he said he likes the place but that it only matters that I like it. I'm at my wit's end. We live together and I still have till March 8th to transfer. I dont know how I'm going to make it one more month in this emotional turmoil. I love him and I want to believe that this is just the fear and PTSD but I feel our relationship dying and it's killing me and I don't know how to fix it, not moving isn't an option.