Whenever my boyfriend I discuss anything he’ll say “l cant do anything right”. How do I get him to stop playing victim?

This is his go to line whenever I bring up something he does that bothers me when I want to come up with a solution. For example, we’re social distancing because of covid. After work we’ll watch movies over the phone. All day he will tell me not to wait late to watch the movie with him because he has work early. Then once gets home he says he’s going to shower but after that I don’t hear from him at all for hours. His excuse will be that he knocked out. So I told him if you’re extremely tired just text me so I’m not left hanging, then we can talk tomorrow. He then says he doesn’t like texting which isn’t true, he texts. Also how do you fall asleep right after showering you would still need to get dressed, have dinner etc. I texted him tonight saying we can talk tomorrow and when he called I heard him playing video games in the background so it’s rude on his end because setting those games up requires time, he could’ve said something before playing. When I call him out on it he will say “you never loved me” or “I can’t do anything right”. Why not come up with a solution to what we’re discussing instead of trying to make me feel bad for him?