Do you ever feel like you put in more effort than everyone else?

I constantly feel like this, whether it’s with friendships or relationships or whatever. I feel like I’m always asking how they are, remembering dates that are important to them, making sure they feel wanted, trying to get to know them on a deeper level, listening to them talk about their interests and actually talking to them about it... but I don’t feel like others do that for me, at least not as much. Sometimes I’m listening to them talk and just think... is this how it will always be? Am I just here to listen and that is all? Why don’t people want to get to know me? I mean REALLY know me... it makes me feel lonely.