I’ll try and keep this as short as possible. I need advice! My future in laws are refusing to come to our wedding unless we have it in a Catholic Church or have a catholic ceremony the morning after the wedding. You may remember I posted about their ultimatums before.. uninvited us to Christmas if we didn’t stay under their roof, did the same thing for thanksgiving and didn’t speak to my Fiancé for months because we moved in together six months prior to our wedding.

I respect all religions and their practices so we have tried being as respectful as we could. When we visited for the holidays we would visit for the day and come back, because we didn’t want to stay at their home (10+ people would’ve been there and it was during COVID-19) and they didn’t feel comfortable with us in a hotel.

Anyway, when we were originally planning the wedding we knew we wanted it to be a civil ceremony. I was raised Baptist and he was raised catholic, picking a church/side didn’t seem fair especially when neither of us practice as much as we should. His parents were okay with this, now their tune has changed and didn’t even look at the invitation and refuses to say whether or not they are going unless we have a catholic wedding immediately followed or change the already booked venue.

Unfortunately our honeymoon is prepaid for, along with arrangements for our home and puppy while we are away. Also, it’s just not ideal for us to get up the next morning to do a ceremony all over again. I also find it interesting that they can’t accept us trying to be neutral and that their religion weighs more than my family’s.

I feel like my main issue is I don’t like ultimatums and I just wouldn’t do this as a parent. If you don’t agree with how the ceremony is done, you could at least have dinner during the reception? Or come to the ceremony but not celebrate something you don’t agree with? I don’t know .. am I overreacting? I am concerned this will be a trend for the rest of our lives, if they don’t agree with us we have to deal with their ultimatums instead of them respecting our decisions.