Would you stay with a guy who treats you good, but in the past he verbally abused you really bad which effects your mental health to this day?

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He’s amazing now but I can’t get any of the things he told me out of my head. He told me to kill my self, no other guy would ever wife me up, and a bunch of other awful things. He now considers me his wife tho and claims he meant “none” of it and wanted to hurt me because he was insecure.

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NO GUY WHO TREATS YOU GOOD WOULD ABUSE YOU!!!! 
Leave. It’s only a matter of time before things can change in a different direction. You deserve so much better

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people can change, but the memories won’t. the original mindset won’t. he could get mad and go off again. don’t risk it

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I would have probably lost my shit on him a long time ago and left him high and dry. 
I don’t do abuse in any form nor do I tolerate disrespect cause you not about to play with me or my self esteem and that’s a fact.

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I say this with a heavy heart because I know this all too well.. the truth is no you really should not stay.  I think what is happening is you are romanticizing the parts of this man that SEEM good. 
But the truth is with abuse, there’s always a cycle and you are in the honeymoon phase. ￼￼Then, within time, the tension will build and then there will be another “blow-up.” It could be verbal abuse or it could become physical. It is a certainty he will become abusive again. And he was at least spot on about him being insecure because abusive partners are THE MOST insecure people you will ever come across. It is the very root as to why they are so terrible to people. It is because they truly hate themselves. They project their internal darkness into and onto others. This insecurity will not leave and will only cause you pain. I understand that you may love this person but a good percentage of abusive people are narcissists and the good parts of them are really just learned behaviors to fit in with society. No one would stay with a person if they were bad all the time and they know that and because he will never change, your life with this person will become more and more painful. 
Trust me when I say do not wait for it to get that bad because when it’s that bad you will just be picking up the pieces for even longer. ￼And baby... him abusing you in the past is not him treating you good. Regardless of how long it’s been since he did so.

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I meant to say no

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Girl WHAT?? Please believe me when I say my breakup with an individual like this was the best thing that ever happened to me. I’m now with a real man who spoils me, cherishes me, tells me I’m beautiful every day, makes me smile, gives me beautiful gifts, takes me on trips...
There are good men out there. This loser isn’t one of them. Time to pack your bags and go.

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I agree with the others comments . Please leave because at no point should ur BFF tell u any thing that disrespectful if he loved u he wouldn’t wanna see u hurt n crying over his actions . Yeah a person can get mad but if he can’t control his emotions he need to grow up n learn how to act ... leave him please

Would you stay with a guy who treats you good, but in the past he verbally abused you really bad which effects your mental health to this day?

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