Please, help a young (possibly dumb in love)😭girl out. Could you forgive your SO for cheating???

Question

I know there are a lot of factors, background history I’ll make it short as I can. 
Been together 2 years, live together for about a year. 
I have had my short comings too, won’t say I am perfect. I have talked to someone but it was a one time thing and I came clean. Maybe he’s never forgave me and this is why he did this. Because before this i never suspected anything. 
When we are in a good space, he is my best friend and it’s like the honey moon stage all over again. 
He’s been texting girls for months, random short conversations(that I know of, I read the messages) but he was complementing them, that’s what really hurts me. 
He said he never met up with them. It doesn’t matter if he’s did or didn’t because it still hurts to know he’s been doing this. 
If I wouldn’t of went through his phone, which is something I DO NOT DO, then I wouldn’t of known. 
I am hurt. I’m in that place where honestly most of the time I don’t know how I feel. I never thought he would do this. And IVE NEVER SAID THAT ABOUT ANYBODY, because he’s always been so into me like when we first met. 
We’ve been going through a rough patch and that’s when the messages really started. He’s my longest relationship in 4 years, I usually up and leave when things get tough but I stuck it out. THROUGH EVERYTHING. 
I want to forgive him. But I don’t know if I should or can. I COULD possibly, it’s always been so easy to forgive him..I feel so pathetic, he’s the one that caused the pain but at that time head the only one I wanted to comfort me, but couldn’t! 
All day I’m getting triggered, I think of the messages he sent and my stomach starts to hurt so bad. Just scrolling on IG I think “would he message her, would he tell her she’s pretty?” I never felt like that before. I TRUSTED him more than anybody.

Answer

You don't handle it get through rough patches by cheating.  I wouldn't stay with him.

Answer

I think life has a way of handing you a warning. Oftentimes before stuff really hits the fan... life gives a warning. When in a relationship it is about observing the conduct, behavior, habits of a person to see if they can and would make a reliable and dependable LIFe partner. He is engaging other women behind your back.... for months. Thats not ok. He is showing you his values and morals. He is literally showing u how he would be as a husband and father. Dont get further invested using time, money, and your youth.... then get pregnant... only to be hurt because hes doing these things to u. 
      Think of it like a car..... if the car is hving issues for months... u not gonna put all your hope and dependability into it are u???? Just take time and truly think things through so u dont hve regrets in the future. Read relationship and marriage books so u know what to look for. Boundaries in dating is a decent book. Look up premarriage councelign questions even while dating so u can date smart. Its the biggest decision u will make in life so invest in learning

Answer

A lot of women are going to tell you to leave. I'm not going to tell you to stay or go, but maybe give you a little insight. 
You could forgive him, but the thing is .. the first few months you're constantly going to remember what he said to them. The messages , the girls , and how it makes you feel . Stomach is in knots and tears falling , wondering why he did this to you .  He can do it again but it'll get worse and worse... 
You could forgive him, but sit down and set boundaries and he should apologize because of how it made you feel. He was wrong and knows that if it were you talking to other guys - he'd lose his shit. But he does better and you guys get better. Believe it or not cheaters can change.  ( not an always or guarantee) 
Or you could move on and not lose sleep or sanity over any of this. I know it's hard and you have glow to turn to . You'll start over with someone else one day but for the moment focus on yourself.

Answer

No.
You do not forgive someone for cheating on you and move forward with them. By doing so you are granting them permission to do it again by showing them you have no intentions of holding them responsible for their misdeeds. 
Cheating is not an accident, not a slip up, not a stupid mistake or anything the like. It is a willfull and deliberate betrayal of your bond, your union and trust. It is the wanton disrespect of your time and your health. You were betrayed in favor of a 10 second orgasm. Your health was put in jeopardy for a 10 second orgasm. A 10 second orgams was more important than you.
Walk away.

Answer

Now you know how he felt when you did him wrong. Both y’all aren’t meant for each other and it sounds like it’s only gonna get messier

Please, help a young (possibly dumb in love)😭girl out. Could you forgive your SO for cheating???

The Top Baby Tracker App: Embrace New Beginnings with Tender Care

The Top Fertility Tracker App: Your Path to Achieving Pregnancy

The Top Pregnancy App: Nurturing Your Journey to Motherhood

The Top Period Tracker for Empowering Your Menstrual Health Journey