I don't even know where to start.

Ok so, my vagina is super loose. I've been told by a few people that it's not tightest they've ever been with. I've even been told it's like "throwing a hotdog down a hallway." Also when I put my fingers in my vagina, I have a lot of space to move my fingers around and I don't really touch the walls of my vagina. I only have sex in like 2 positions because they're the only 2 that feel good to me, and even then my cervix is pretty much just getting hit the whole time or I don't really feel much of anything passed the entrance. I find it almost impossible to orgasm, I can only orgasm through clit stimulation. I'm 22 and I've birthed 2 children, and I have a pretty wide thigh gap (I've read that thigh gaps can cause a looser vagina because of the way your pelvis is positioned.) How can I loosen up my vagina!!?? I want to feel confident about it. And I can tell when my boyfriend isn't enjoying it.

Another issue that I'm having is, my vagina flaps (whatever they're actually called) are super long and they get in the way, which is another frustration. I feel like my vagina is ugly. Apparently it "takes time getting used to" and "is not like a normal vagina" I'm considering surgery but I don't know what risks come with it, or if I'm just better off not getting the surgery.

Any advice is much appreciated. TIA