I think.. I think she is really depressed.

She was around 12 weeks pregnant when she met my brother so it isn’t his kid. My brother is going through a lot and they’re like couch surfing and it really bothers me that she’s pregnant, looks sad as hell, doesnt have a place to live, and it’s literally like 9 degrees outside so I’ve been letting them stay the night on my couch and they leave in the morning for work and idk where she goes. I think she just sits up at his work all day. She’s very kind like she still asks to use my bathroom and she doesn’t take or use anything without asking and she picks up her blankets before she leaves. Like she’s not up in my house being rude or bummy or eating all my food but I do feed her because um shes pregnant. But she won’t ask for food I have to offer.

This girl is younger than me, I think about 20-21

And I’ve been watching her and it’s like.. this is so hard to explain. Idk if she is like clueless or severely depressed, and seems much younger than she is when you sit and talk to her. It’s like not registering to her that there is a whole 15 week old fetus in her that needs to be checked on.

She’s 14/15 weeks pregnant now and hasn’t had any prenatal care at all. The only thing she’s said is that she isn’t going to have an abortion, she’s going to have this baby. I am going to talk to her tomorrow about going to my OBGYN.

I know he’s delivered a lot of babies because it’s been brought up during my paps as just conversation but I’ve never been pregnant. All I know is that I know an OB, I fully trust him and he’s a great doctor. I’m comfortable with him and he specializes with women who have been assaulted and everything like he asks consent for everything he does. She says she doesn’t care if the doctor is a man.

I don’t know what to do, so I’m just going to all them tomorrow with her and set up an appointment and I’m going to have to take her because my brother is working 24/7 to get his shit together and she doesn’t have a car.

Do I do anything else? Like y’all I don’t know what to do. I’m not gonna let a pregnant girl freeze to death sleeping in a car, but I’m not gonna let her bum off me you know? Like I want to set that boundary. I live in a one bedroom house there’s nowhere for her, my brother and a baby and me and my SO. She needs her own place and I’ll help her out. 4 adults and 1 baby in a very small house just sounds like a horrible idea. They’d live on my couch.

I’m going to try to find recourses, like places that will help her get on assistance and help house her. I have connections to people who work for those types of resources so I’ll be calling them.

There’s just so much going on right now in everyone’s life and I’m like okay, someone needs to pay attention to this pregnant girl that sadness just radiates from. I am hoping to find some kind of a counselor that will talk to her and help her get everything she needs.

Any advice will help

I’m not going to call CPS on them until I have good reason just like for anyone else. I think she just needs to talk to someone, and she needs to see a doctor to get her and baby checked on. And I’ll like initiate a conversation with the doctor the importance of prenatal care.

This baby isn’t even born yet, calling CPS is a lot. She deserves a chance to have her baby and start motherhood without CPS up her butt, They have a lot going on man I can’t explain it all but in short, life chewed them up and spit them both out within the last few weeks and she literally has nobody on this planet besides my brother and she’s pregnant and I think she’s fucking terrified, think she just simply needs help, I do sense a disconnect but I think this girl is disassociating in order to cope. You’d just have to meet her.

Everyday for the past few weeks she’s been at my house for some amount of time and I just see so much pain on her.

Believe me, if this baby is born and no progress is made I will do what I need to do. Believe that I will watch out for that baby like any sane adult would. I won’t let a baby be homeless. I don’t expect her to have a car and a place to live or a job extra quick but I did bring it up that she needs one and she agreed. I’m going to give this girl a chance to take care of her life and her baby. Some people don’t how know to.. go about life you know? They don’t know how they can get resources. I know someone that can set her and baby up in like a “women’s shelter” but she’ll have an apartment to herself and low rent and assistance for baby. Maybe being pregnant hasn’t set in yet for her, maybe she doesn’t understand the importance or prenatal care. I’m sorry y’all I’m just a very compassionate person and will give her every benefit of the doubt.

Update: I have a wonderful health insurance guy who is helping her get on health insurance. I’m sure it’ll be a week or two before the doc gets her in. I’m not trying to destroy her with medical debt, I know I need insurance when I see the doctor and she needs it as well.