Am I missing something here ?

One day I was relaxing with my fiancé and his ex wife called starting some mess accusing me or assuming I put something about her on the internet. I never met the woman a day in my life.

I suspect she is just trying to make problems with my now fiancé or may be jealous. She had his 6 year older daughter call crying, who I actually met and asking her daddy about why I did something ( what?!) I was furious and grabbed the phone and told her not to cry that I would never do that to her or about her mommy. She said okay.

Her mother got in and boy did I have some words for her. What parent would do that??! Me fiance, while he contends that he has no idea what’s going on and why she would think that, he didn’t seem that upset.

While speaking with his ex we’re all on speaker phone , she admits he calls her when me and him have issues and she shit down my engagement saying how many time y’all have issues? I said excuse me ? That’s none of your business. I ask him while she is on the phone, and he tries to tell her don’t make up anything but then she goes in to say he confides on her and trusts her etc etc. I couldn’t believe what I was hearing.

Later I went upstairs and wanted space he came to my and said how stupid she was, and look at the drama he went through all those years. I gave him my hand and said STOP IT. You have no right to share our life with her. Also if she so stupid why would you talk to her about your future wife?! The rest of that night he cried and tried to blame me and say I’m being hard on him. Then he stated sobbing about his abandonment issues and how she is the only person he was close to until he met me. He also said he had lose lips and he didn’t mean it etc etc.

Next day he was giving me attitude because I didn’t console him when he was crying. I did not , I feel like I was the one violated. Later we started arguing he started yelling and told me it was disrespectful to me or the relationship at all. I said you know what don’t come over, don’t call me, don’t text me , and I hung up and blocked him for a week. I needed to relax and not get his nasty texts as he does when he gets angry. How am I wrong in this. Is this not so violating my trust? His ex wife question our love life cause he talks to her ?? It’s been a week ans he sent a text saying he missed me but also saying why and I so hard, why do I make it so hard for him - again blaming me. I didn’t respond or contact him yet. But I do miss him but I feel conflicted and hurt.

Please give me your thoughts.