IVF & morality

I am a Christian. I had no issues going into IVF. I have endo that I have had two surgeries to remove and it wreaked havoc on my ovaries. My right tube was blocked and my left tube was filled with fluid and blocked, I had both removed. I believe that God gave us this knowledge in order to USE it and I am so grateful for science and the ability to be a mama when I wouldn’t have the chance of experiencing pregnancy on my own. We have used donor eggs and currently have 10 embryos but only want 1-2 children. We will see how many it takes to complete our family and any that we have leftover we will donate to another couple who has struggled. We have lost one fertilized egg and I had that thought.. should I feel bad? I believe that life starts at conception. My husband put it to me this way.. if we were doing this the natural way then how many times would an egg have fertilized but not been viable and never implanted and we would never have even known?! God knows my heart and my heart is for every single embryo we have, but he has also blessed us so that we are able to financially move forward when we have no insurance coverage and a year ago a $2k emergency would have left us financially broken. We have prayed. We have peace and no guilt. I would give you the same advice, follow what your spirit says is right for you. If it is meant to be, God will give you peace. Sending you all the love on this difficult journey.

I am not religious but morally struggled with the idea of destroying any potential embryos. What my husband and I decided was that IF (and that's a big if) we had left over embryos we would donate them to a couple in need. After struggling with fertility and knowing the yearning and desperation to become a mother, I felt that once we completed our family if there were any remaining embryos we would try to bless another family with a baby. In my instance I had several MC which is why I sought out fertility treatments. We ended up with 5 embryos and transferred 2. Both stuck. I lost 1 twin around 7 weeks and the other was born healthy. The other 3 are frozen, in the hopes of giving my daughter a sibling. If we are immediately successful again and there is 1 or 2 embryos left I hope that results in another couples miracle baby ❤

My fertility clinic offers something called minimal stimulation ivf. It’s basically the same as ivf but a lower dose of medicine is used so you get less eggs. This may be a better option for you if you’re worried about having a lot of left over eggs or embryos. It is something I am considering as well. Good luck and baby dust to you!!

I was raised born again Christian and have some super narrow minded pro life parents. (I dont believe in any of it anymore.)When telling my mom (who has said such hurtful and untrue things as "there are no medical reasons to have an abortion except ectoptoc, everyone else is selfish"), that we have already discarded over 30 embryos that stopped growing and I plan on discarding 5 embryos that were frozen from my 2nd retrieval when the renewal comes in since they are poor quality and I don't plan to ever transfer them...shes fine with it. It really all comes down to the individual and their views on it.I know some people will only fertilize a certain number of eggs at a time so as not to be stuck with too many extra embryos. So if they get 20 eggs at retrieval, they'll freeze 10 of them as eggs and fertilize the other 10 to see how many embryos they get. You're always going to lose some in the process. Some clinics will do "compassion transfers". If you have leftover embryos but don't want to discard them, you can transfer them at a time when it likely won't turn into a pregnancy.