My older sister is still legally married but separated from her ex who left her because he fell out of love with her and in the process knocked her confidence.

Story:

My sister joined a fb dating page and informed my younger sister ,my younger sister advised she uploads a photo of the 3 of us to show she's family orientated but she declined saying she's the 'ugly sister' nd that guys would use her to get to us.

She started speaking to a guy who is a paramedic and he told her his past.

•he has only been separated for 7 months

•while at work he met another woman which he described as a scene in a movie where everything goes still nd you focus on this girl that you want to get to know.

•he told his mum he might have feelings for this girl and his mother advised he cheat on his wife for 6 months with this girl and if they still have feelings then tk leave his wife if not then alls not been lost as the wife will never know.

•He took his mother's advise and cheated.

•He tried having a baby with his wife WHILE CHEATING. He told my sister when she asked if he wants kids that he did try to conceive while cheating on his wife nd only took a 2 week break with us mistress. Luckily she didn't get pregnant.

•he told my sister that he lives in a small town and the TOWN HATES HIM. He said before when you would mention his name people would say " what a top bloke " now they say the opposite.

•HES STILL RECEIVING COUNSELLING!!because he got caught, thats the only reason.

•His wife found out and left him ,he BEGGED her to stay and admitted to my sister it was only because he was scared of being alone, she didn't take him back.

•He then DATED his mistress properly who was 18 , he was 30... she cancelled her life plans of education because she said she doesn't need it as she has him by her side so he dumped her.

I tell my sister over and over that he's a cheat and that he may 'seem' nice but anyone is nice compared to my sisters ex.

My sister said "it doesn't matter because he didn't cheat on me did he "

I told her that people who have been abused when the abuser dates someone new if they had that mindset then does that make it okay? To chance them being the next victim?

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She admitted she is sexually attracted to this guy and that she is worried that is swayint judgement on feelings for him. She is nearly 30 and for the last year has been saying she is scared to be alone.

She has already met the guy in person only once and if she does again I'm going to keep distance as he deals with covid patients and I refuse to be put as risk.

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Both my sisters are saying because he admitted his past now that he won't repeat it. I reminded them that he has only been separated for 7 months and is STILL getting help for the 'guilt' he is feeling so he isn't fully over it and therefore in my opinion isn't ready to move on as he is somewhat still stuck in the past.

I'm the only one who is cautious and he asked my sister what she thinks her best features are , her reply was "my eyes"he just said "wow..."

I told her she shouldn't have said that because guys, everyone loves confidence that if someone asked me I'd say this and that. He now knows she has zero confidence in herself and has a very low self esteem.

She showed him photos of me and my younger sister and said that she got hit with the 'ugly stick ' and that we are the reason she has no confidence when I told her its because of her ex that she had zero confidence not us.

Please comment your opinion I very much appreciate it.

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