We have our toddler twice a week at the grandparents for a few hours in the evening so we can have some down time. But my husband doesn't use the time to be with me instead is gaming. He has phases where it's excessive. I talked to him about how I miss our intimacy and he offered to spend time once a week an hour with me. I felt so offended and got upset. He said when he's home even though he's gaming in the same room he's still with us. He thinks being just there is good enough. We don't even sleep in the same bed because I cosleep with our child. Am I being unreasonable? I feel like he's just throwing crumbs at me and I should be happy about that

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for letting my toddler sleep alone, I have made suggestions to sleep all three and he doesn't want that- his early alarm clock will disturb us. I have suggested to sleep train, he doesn't agree on that either, all he says is our toddler will outgrow it and for now it's fine the way it is. I think he's comfortable with it. After our baby is asleep he is gaming and will not bother me at all.