My husband & I planned to go out for lunch this Sunday - Valentines Day. Although, we haven’t booked anything we talked about a picnic at the beach. Last night we were at his parents house & he asked them what they were doing this weekend. His mother said nothing, and asked if we were doing anything on V day. My husband said to her that we could all go out for lunch. I sat their quietly because I hate making a drama. I then said to him, calmly “I’m a little upset that you are making plans for us on Sunday with your family, because we had already discussed lunch together. Just you & I”. Normally I wouldn’t care if we were to go out for lunch with them. It just bugs me that he has done this, and this isn’t the first time. I don’t want it to sound like a competition, but it feels like it. Feels like I am competing with his family (mother). So as I tell him this, he gets defensive and tells me I am controlling him and I’m emotional abuser. I then got angry, and said that he has to put this relationship first, I have no problem but V day for me is to celebrate us & our story. Etc. we are both so stubborn. I just want to know what you guys think of this. Am I being unreasonable and dramatic. I just feel like it might look different from someone else’s perspective. Thank you in advance :) x