So in 39 days, I’m moving 2700 miles away from my narcissistic ex who has mentally and emotionally abused me for 2 years. It took a lot of courage last night but I looked at him and told him. “I’m leaving in 39 days. This relationship isn’t healthy for either of us and my mental health is in a really bad place right now so I’m going back home.” He of course fired back with “you aren’t going to leave you’re just saying that” and “oh you’re going to leave after ruining my life”.

He blames me for the reason his life is where it is. Back story, he got a DUI before we met. He hired a lawyer but then he moved to a new house and we got into an argument so he changed his number. His lawyer couldn’t get ahold of him. So now he has no job (he has like 40,000 saved up) because he was an auto parts driver and can’t do it without a license. He went to jail after getting into a physical fight with his dad. So naturally because he changed his number by choice it’s my fault he doesn’t have a license or job.

I looked at him and said “I didn’t choose anything. You chose to smoke pot and drive. You chose to change your number and not update your address with the DMV. No one made you do any of it. It was a choice you made. You made your bed and you have to lie in it. I refuse to take responsibility for your life being ruined. You did that all on your own.”

And of course as narcissists do, he started an argument with me. So he further proved just why I need to move on with my life.