Hi ladies,

I’m just wondering if any of you have dealt with negative views of sex and how you got past them? I’m 18 and a virgin (it doesn’t bother me) and I would never think poorly of anyone for having sex, but for some reason when I picture myself, I just feel disgusted and uncomfortable. Part of me is resistant to the fact that nature designed people to have sex, and I feel bothered that there’s a kind of animalistic drive pushing me towards it. It makes me feel not in control. I also feel bothered by the way hetero sex is designed (I’m heterosexual). As a woman, the idea of being penetrated and the physical vulnerability of something being put inside of me rather than being the one to insert it makes me uncomfortable. I also realize that sex can be an incredibly beautiful and wholesome act (according to others), but for some reason I’m having difficulty mentally bridging the gap. Has anyone else experienced this divide or something similar? How did you get over it? Did you find it to be a problem when you started having sex?