Hello people. I lost my virginity on Saturday and had sex again for the second time last night. Saturday it hurt so bad that I wanted to cry and screamed so loud I was embarrassed (my partner reassured me and cared for me and truly tried to help make it easier), but that didn’t stop how badly I bled! We tried again last night and it didn’t hurt as bad this time but there still was pain occasionally. I have a few questions all together...

1. Is it normal to bleed consistently the first few times? I always assumed you would bleed the first time if that’s the way your body handles it, but I never assumed I would bleed the second, third, fourth time.

2. I’m considering going back on birth control. I usually have long lasting periods (full week) plus spiting every month-month and a half. I am obese and don’t want to gain further weight but I also don’t want the shot, any recommendations?

3. Is it normal to feel sickly a few days after losing your virginity? My partner does not have any STI’s or STD’s and was not sick at the time of sex. I can’t tell if I feel weird because I’m an anxious person, if this is normal after your first time, etc.