I really dislike my mil and I’m trying to be better and put my differences aside to have a better relationship for my baby. But she really says some sh*t that just really irks me like down to my core. For example I don’t like people rubbing my belly and she told me “I can’t wait for the baby to be here so I can hold/touch him without you stopping me” when I tell you I felt my blood boil from rage 🤬. Like why do you have to make comments like that 😒. I try not to let it get to me but sometimes my anger just slips and I can’t control my bitch face. She told me she was planning to come stay a week when the baby comes and I told her no, we are waiting 3 weeks before we have visitors, and you can only stay a weekend. So she started going on about how I’m a first time mom and i don’t know how hard it’s gonna be, that I will need help where I can get it etc.... first of all I know it’s not gonna be easy I don’t live in a fantasy world where I expect to have the calmest newborn. But if I need help I will ask for it, I told her I want to experience this my way not the way you think I should, and if you show up to my house uninvited I’m not opening the door for you sorry. My husband the same thing about this btw and it goes for everyone not just her. I suffer from anxiety and setting boundaries is something I’m slowly learning where I have to talk myself into setting them and not feeling bad about hurting other peoples feelings. Because at the end of the day I’m the one that ends up stressed and making myself sick for what? For someone who thinks this is best for me. No not anymore I have a baby to think about now. No more people pleasing.