One of my good friends I’ve known since high school (we are now 29) is gaining a lot of weight. She has always been on the heavy side around 250 pounds in high school.

She broke her foot and asked me to drive her to her appointment. I did and she couldn’t even fit in the front seat so she had to sit in the back. I was shocked since I haven’t seen her in about 6 months but we talk on the phone almost everyday. I wheeled her in to the doctors and was there when the nurse weighed her and then I went outside. The scale said 485.

In the last couple years I noticed her getting bigger and bigger and her health and mobility declining. But this is the worse I’ve ever seen her. When she got out I asked her if the doctor said anything. She said he said her foot is healing well and he wants he to start dieting. I immediately said I think dieting is a good idea without thinking and she got quiet and I felt like I offended her.

On the way home we stopped for lunch and I purposely ordered a salad and water hoping to encourage her to order something healthy too. She ordered a soda, 2 burgers, large fries and a fudge brownie. Then when we left she wanted to stop in the candy shop that was next door. She bought a bunch of candy her total was over $40 and she snacked on some of the candy on the way home.

I dropped her off and called one of our other friends on the way home. We talked and both have noticed her weight getting out of control. We talked about sitting her down and having a intervention and saying she needs to diet and exercise and we are willing to help. I don’t know if this would be insensitive and should we just leave it alone. She is 29 and often complains about being single and unhappy and I feel like if she lost some weight she would have the confidence to go out and meet someone. I personally don’t care what she looks like I’m friends for her because of her caring sweet personality not her looks. But her health has got to be horrible I can see the struggle to walk and get up and down.

Edit- by intervention I mean just me and the other close friend, not a whole bunch of people. We were just going talk about her health and talk about all working out together and eating healthier.