Im getting married in 5 days (this saturday YAYAY) & I have decided not to invite my sisters. To start off, I wanted this to be super personal & fun, we’re just basically going to a chapel in vegas & getting married. My mom & his parents are going & that’s it. We both don’t really like being the center of attention & eventually we’ll have a real wedding but this is just how we decided to do it since the actual wedding is something our parents want us to do and not necessarily something we want.

I don’t have much family I speak to, one of my sisters I haven’t spoken to in about a year & I let her know that I didn’t want to feel uncomfortable so that’s why I wasn’t inviting her, I did tell her that hopefully we can sit down & work things out before the “real” wedding & she was okay with that & genuinely understood. My little sister on the other hand, didn’t take it so well. My little sister & her wife have kind of taken advantage of me this past year, I always lent them money & never got it back. we were living together until about a month ago when they decided to break our lease and leave. When they were here, they said they couldn’t pay the bills because they just decided to stop working so I paid them because they were “struggling” until they left. They were still contributing to rent but i was buying groceries, paying all the utilities but then they decided to just leave. They pretty much left me high & dry. I’m not upset with my sister even though she’s partly to blame, I don’t like her wife. I’ve never liked the way she treated my sister & when they left it was the wife’s decision, she just always decides things for my sister & gets upset with her for doing things on her own.

Anyways I don’t want her there because this issue is so new and I don’t want to tell my sister “you can go but not your wife” I don’t think that’s fair and I genuinely just want to have fun that day. I decided to also just invite them to the “real” one but my sister is livid, am I being selfish?